How to Keep Romance Alive and Your Man Happy

Are you in a relationship that has seen a younger you? Do you love each other but the passion of the beginning is no longer there?

You might be wondering: "what can I do to keep romance in our relationship?"
Let me share what I've learned to be true, and some tips to maintain a happy love relationship.

At the beginning there is the magic and the happiness of the wonderful falling in love.

When you fall in love, you constantly think about your beloved. You’d do anything for him. A new love changes your life in wonderful ways: the joy of having found a person with whom you share a strong romantic connection cheers up all aspects of your life, everything you do has a joyful glare, and your beloved is the focus of your thoughts.

After you have been together for a while, and you grow confident in your rapport, you tend to relax and you may lower your guard, showing sides of yourself that you camouflaged during the initial courtship. As the pink lenses of love fade, the perfect being of your affection starts showing some flaws - and so do you at his eyes.
The novelty and enthusiasm wear off, and what was lovely and exciting at the beginning, could become the same old . You are still happy together, but without any tangible sign, each day contributes to the evolution of your connection. Your feelings for one another subtly change.

It takes action and dedication from both partners to maintain a healthy relationship.

To the slow sentiment-changing action of time, you need to add major life-changing events, like the things that we all want: marriage, children and important jobs. Under the stress of a busy and demanding life, the once thrilling relationship can get really unrecognizable, to the point that some couples lose all the romance and get caught in misunderstandings, continuous arguments or, even worse in my opinion, complete indifference.

A love relationship is like a beautiful flower garden, it needs grooming and constant care. If you don’t keep working on your garden, weeds and withered flowers will take over. You need to keep the magic up by nurturing that initial wonderful feeling, and keep it thriving.

The challenge for any couple is to maintain alive the initial feeling of magic through continous nourishment. Nurturing the connection you have with your partner is what sustains the relationship.

Focus on your partner’s positives rather than his flaws. As you did when you first fell in love with him, focus on what you do like about him and not dwell on things you do not like. Remember why you chose him; refocus on the qualities that made you fall in love. Shift from criticism over the imperfect things you discovered about him, to appreciation for his qualities. Keep falling in love, for the same person, over and over.

A successful relationship is never the fruit of one party’s effort only. It takes both partners to make it work. However, I believe that in love, the best rule is "Give without expectations" . It pays off to be on the forefront, being the first one who steps up and gives meaningfully to the relationship. I’m not talking about gifts here; I mean devoting your attention, your energy, and yourself, to nourishing the romance.

Do your best to show love with your words, actions and sometimes sacrifices, without expecting pats on the back, gifts, or recognitions. Your partner will perceive that love. He will appreciate it. Your relationship will gain extra power from it, and the next thing you know, he’ll be doing nice things for you.

To keep the romance in the couple, you don’t need big, heroic, passionate gestures. Yes, those are always great and very welcome, but honestly, how often can you do grandiose acts of love? Maybe few times a year, for anniversaries and birthdays. What really counts is the everyday stuff. Here are some ideas for everyday acts of love and dedication that can make your man happy.

• Welcome him home with warmth and kindness. At the end of the day, after a day of work, greet your man cheerfully, even if you can’t wait to vent your day’s frustrations, don’t start complaining the moment he walks in. Give him the chance to relax; wait for a better moment to share your issues.
• Volunteer to help him with errands if his day is overload.
• Turn his wishes into reality. Listen carefully to what he is wishing for, and find creative ways to make it happen.
• Cook for him. Men love finding a nice dinner waiting for them at home, it makes them feeling loved and cared for. Better yet you have his favorite food on a nicely set table. If he packs his lunch, do it for him. He’ll appreciate.
• Write a cute note and slip it in his lunch box, car, or stick it on his keys.
• Keep it fun in the bedroom. Surprise him with the sexy stuff that you know he loves. Keep the physical intimacy exciting and passionate.
• Keep the house welcoming and comfortable, make it a nice place to come home to. This may involve removing clutter and doing some extra cleaning.
• Listen to him, ask how his day was and really listen to his answers. Ask him for advice on matters that you would usually handle yourself and listen to his opinion.
• Laugh together. Laughing together boosts the joyful spirit that connected you in the first place.
• Never go to bed angry. Communicate, express your feelings, talk it out, possibly find a compromise; try everything to avoid going to sleep packed with resentment and sadness.
• Play games together. Spend quality time together playing games that you both enjoy. You’ll have some fun time, create memories to cherish, and strengthen your connection.

If you make give without expectations your everyday rule, all your dedication will not go unnoticed. Your man will notice and appreciate your efforts; he will recognize what you are doing and why you are doing it. Every little act of love you do it's like a seed planted in the garden of your relationship, and soon enough you’ll see the fruits of your hard work.

A man that feels loved, respected, and cared for is a happy man, and he will do his best to make you happy too. He will look forward to come home and spend time with you. His thankfulness for being appreciated and loved will reward you with a greater happiness and a stronger bond in your relationship.